(Warning: Strong Languages and Full-blown Rants in this article)
We all know a story about a misfit in high school, who was constantly being in the short-end of the deal, either not able to fit in with the environment or just downright outcast. Sometimes, these poor souls are subjected to bullying. What the hell is bullying? You may ask. Let me elaborate this. Bullying is mainly the use of force or threat to abuse and assert someone as dominant to another. This thing is mainly done with the hostile intention to cause any sort of damage that can last for short term or long term. Ironically, many of those so-called 'bullies' actually have either low self-esteem or just downright malicious and narcissistic. We all know the phrase "the strong overpowers the weak", and bullying is a crystal clear interpretation of the phrase.
Bullying itself is divided to few types. The most commonly done is physical bully and verbal bully. Based on their names, one is a type of bullying by the means of harming someone's body or possession. This can range from mere punches, kicks, shove, to even more dangerous use of weapons. This can escalate to violence if the bully wants. Another is used by the means of talking either rumors, hoaxes, calling names or making threats. Unlike the previous type, this form targets the victims’ psychology and mental health Some might do this type of bullying based on the victim's appearance (body shaming) or a fact that the same target is a special needs kid (autism and any disorders similar to it). This is done mainly to assert power in a group by constantly alienating a specific target for their own pleasure. Nowadays, cyber bullying is the preferred method of bullying, by utilizing social media platforms to send threats online, making prank calls, and anonymous harassment. Kids at schools do not only experience all these three types of bullying, adults at workplace are also deal with that same cases. More often than not, some suicide cases mainly caused by depression are traced back to bullying inside a working environment.
I'll be blunt here in the next paragraphs. I've been bullied before. I've been pinched, beaten, yelled at, left out and even some jackasses I called classmates often place their blames at me for the things that they've done. I can vividly remember when I was in Elementary school; a classroom's door handle was pretty loose due to improper fitting. Many of my friends played with that same handle, and when I touched it, since it was already broken, came off the door mechanism. Instead of helping me fix it, those same bastards instead yelled loudly and instantly blaming me for the loose knob. Another instance is when I was constantly beaten like I was some sort of a sandbag when I was in fourth grade. There was this kid who likes to punch me anywhere. On one day, at one instance during class, we were sitting on the floor because we forgot to turn in our assignments, and this kid started to torment me. Because I cried quite a bit when I was a kid, many would call me 'crybaby'. Being fed up of his antics, I swiftly punched him in the unmentionables for self-defense. On another occasion, I bit another kid who was bullying me in the hand. And what I got in return was vengeance. He actually hit me with a drumming stick straight to the head. It is safe to say that my grade school years were more like hell on Earth. I guess that might explain why I personally prefer to be alone in a few instances. My first taste of cyber bullying came about two years ago. My friend inserted me into a gaming community group on Facebook. At first, the community was pretty friendly, but quickly turned sour when a group of spoiled motherfuckers (yep, that is my term to refer those guys) post some hateful comments and toxic remarks, even as far as flipping me the finger. Other members outside of their circle who has different opinions also subjected to this hate comments online. Few of those, including me ended up quitting the group and formed our own instead, making a promise to never accepting an online bully.
Sometimes bullying happens when some asshole is trying to assert dominance to another. Others might argue that it is done to channel their aggression over some unexplainable matters. By doing this, they say, the bully will gain power and self-confidence and a sense of importance. And surprisingly, people with mental conditions can even be either the bully or the victim. Speaking of mental conditions, people with autism and other behavioral disorders (here we go again) are prone to these abuses by the neurotypical society who either not having a clue of what autism is or simply don't give a simple, shiny glowing fuck about it. And let me tell you something. These beautiful minds are living their own lives and are doing well with themselves, so leave them the fuck alone, you arrogant prick! There are too many cases happened with this matter. Particularly involves someone who is a non-verbal autistic and a few of these wolf-in-sheep-clothing assholes that are supposed to be their caregivers. Those poor souls are often beaten, harassed, dragged, and even put them inside a room full of 'nightmare' (autistic person might have sensory issues, either sound, sight, or touch). Those 'nightmares' can be in a form of loud noises blowing constantly, rooms with excessive amounts of lighting (or lack of them), or even clothing with irritable tags and seams.
Cyberbullyings on the other hand might not have the biggest impact as the physical ones mentioned above, but with the advent of modern technology, throwing shades and toxic comments can be faster than snapping a finger, even if the target is a renowned celebrity. Choi Jin-ri or Sulli (yep, we're doing this again) was a famous Korean singer and actress, formerly a member of K-Pop girl group f(x). Last month she was found dead at her apartment after she allegedly hung herself. It only took a few weeks to determine that she was suffering from depression due to a constant and malicious hate comments made online. These keyboard warriors (personally I just call them jackasses with no life) post various comments full of disdain, hate, and intentionally evil words in every posts Sulli made on her various social media accounts. When confronted, these heartless fuckers even said along the lines of "it's not my responsibility if she dies" and "all I do is tell the truth." Congratulations, you assholes just admitted that you are indirectly killed Sulli. Now go ahead and turn your Asses in to the Police. I hear that some K-Pop fans are the most militant to their idols; they would do anything to defend them.
Annoyingly, bullying has become a typically normal aspect of everyday life. Some might say "they are just kids" or "they are just having fun." Well, it's not funny anymore if that poor kid ended up killed by these bullies! Someone needs to step up and challenge this supposed 'social norm' (this is not social norm to begin with anyway, this is pure ignorance). These victims might feel lonely, isolated, rejected, and most horrifyingly, dark and depressed. I mean, come on, if these guys already have depression, DO NOT MAKE IT WORSE! Damn it! I guess many people are still in need of proper education of anti-bullying. Better still, I think bullying, at this point should be considered as a crime. Make those bastards serve prison time for "having fun" with the expense of an innocent soul.
In the end, if you are parents with kids, teach them to be compassionate with others. Teach them something about diversity and empathy. Don't let them become bullies. Moreover, don't bully them in the first place. They might channel their agression and envy into an innocent kid. And for the closure, fuck bullying. They should not suffer things I've suffered long time ago.
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