(Warning: Strong languages and rants ahead)
To start this piece, let's recap (again) about what body positivity movement, or at the very least, what REAL body positivity really is. It's a movement aimed for people born with different bodies as a result of either a genetic condition, body forms, and irreparable injuries, be it amputations, scars from either fire or various accidents. That being said, according to some people, fat bodies should be included inside the body positivity agenda, aimed to destigmatize fat people amongst the societal life. In paper, this is a noble cause, but in reality, this is a total trainwreck. I have to apologize in advance, because in this piece, I'm about to go loose cannon on this subject matter.
And from this movement, which nowadays resembles more like a undrivable shitbox of a rusty car rather than a well-oiled machine akin to a Le Mans Hypercar, came slew of "fat activists" who honestly, weigh more than all 20 Formula 1 drivers combined. (In)famous names like Virgie Tovar, Tess Holliday, even a shit-for-brains nutritionist Linda Bacon (I know she goes by the name of Lindo Bacon and the "they/them" pronouns but fuck it) who first coined the term "health at every size", which in Mortal Kombat terms, is like the Shang Tsung or Shao Kahn of body positivity/fat acceptance movements. Some of them don't even used the term "fat bodies", instead opted to use "marginalized bodies". I have to say this to open your eyes, BUT YOU ARE THE MOST PRIVILEGED CLASS OF THIS WORLD, YOU FUCKING LARDASS.
Onto the subject of this piece, and the information are a lot scarce than I anticipated. But this living cannonball is infamous for her horrible takes (some even said that it's either downright hilarious or offensive) when it comes to body positivity. Her name is Marissa Matthews, and she is from Ottawa, Canada. She is most active on TikTok (God, not this forsaken app again), with most of her content consist of either "what I eat in a day" videos, flaunting her flabby bits or responding to "hate speech" and "fatphobia" with real hate speech and body shaming. Her mouth is deadlier than the Chernobyl nuclear powerplant, the Fukushima nuclear reactor, the Merapi volcano and the supertanker oil spill combined.
Let's take a look at some of her takes on body positivity, and I have to remind you, dear readers, that I have burned millions of my brain cells just to provide this for your entertainment. On one video, she replied to one of the comments from someone who lost weight after living their life as a fat kid reminding her of the long-term danger of obesity by saying "I don't care about you or your life... your experience does not warrant harassing me with unwanted health advice and your opinion on my body". First of all, you pea brain, they just wanted to share their experience to REMIND you of how dangerous being fat in the long run, not to harass your privileged, fat ass!
One of her signature bad takes is the difference between fat shaming and skinny shaming. According to her, fat shaming is rooted in systemic oppression, whether racism, homophobia, transphobia, and all of those leftist trigger words that other "activists" like to spew, while skinny shaming is simply bullying. Other takes including that the body positivity movement is founded by black LGBT fat people, hence those bogus connections. I have to call bullshit on that, because falling too far on either side of the scale is as equally dangerous as the other one. If you are too skinny, or even anorexic for that matter, is dangerous due to low food and energy intake to the point of constant starvation. In short, being too skinny could kill you if you underfeed yourself. What you perceive as "skinny", is what we as a normal society called "fit" or "normal". Whilst being too fat is equally dangerous, partly because instead of underfeeding, you overfed yourself and never paid any attention to your daily calorie intake. If you passed a point of no return, it would slowly kill you through complications on your body as a result of piling body fat. And for the second take, body positivity is meant to support EVERYONE WHO FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE THEIR OWN SKIN. I have to reiterate that the movement, in its face and core values, meant for everyone with different bodies as a result of genetic deformities or disabilities be it from accidents or irreversible injuries. And the movement also open for literally everyone, whether black or white, straight, or gay or bisexual, and for everyone across the globe. Apparently, Marissa's head is so far up her own ass, that anything or everything she perceived is viewed through the lens of "fatphobia" would be deemed as such, even if the comments she read is as harmless as a falling leaf.
And I guess that's just her brand of content, responding to some comments (remember, these comments are in no means harmful, just some PSA on the dangers of obesity with a bit of harmless trolling sprinkled on the side) with pure hatred, malice, and nonchalantly harass other people with differing opinions (and body size with various degrees of real disabilities) and brand them in one fell swoop as fatphobic. And this, in turn, landed her in trouble multiple times with TikTok, who deleted some of her comments for harassment and bullying. And what did she do? She blamed it on the app for deleting her comment and the commenter for getting her own comment axed for harassment. Yeah, talk about grace and poise right there. She is also a bit fucked in the head when it comes to the definition of "boundaries and consent". She loves to preach about those two topics, but in reality, she's a double standard holding bitch who apparently doesn't bother to respect other people's boundaries and always have her two cents about her "valid opinions" for those who do not want them. And she delivers them unsolicited. I can safely say that she has a planetary-sized victim complex if I've ever seen one.
And you are probably thinking, "is this woman even serious?" And unfortunately, she is as serious as she come. And come to think of it, at least some of the "fat activists" currently plaguing this God's green Earth is "strong and independent boss babes", but not poor Marissa Matthews. She is the exact opposite of the mantra, despite her manhole of a mouth spewing otherwise. She is actually a 27-year-old unemployed sloth who lives with her mother. And to top it all off, her mother is a textbook example of an enabler. Yes, we are dealing with a dependent fat woman and her enabling mother who sees nothing wrong in her "poor little baby". I know I said something about a mother's unconditional love, I discussed it while talking about Achraf Hakimi, which is a totally different story, but the way I see it, it's not love, it's borderline abuse. The mother literally set Marissa up for failure and an early death.
I really want to talk more about this trainwreck of a woman, but I am too burnt out to even consider continuing my research for this piece, not while losing more brain cells and IQ points along the way. All I can say is that Marissa Matthews is a textbook example of an ignorant, privileged fat activist who sees everything in one dimension, and dismissing other opinions by framing them as "fatphobia", while also weaponize her victim complex to avoid responsibility, even when the evidence is clear, and all stacked against her. Remember, if you want to be wherever you are, be my guest. But don't force your opinion on someone just because you view yourself as the most important person on the Internet. And one more thing. Don't be Marissa Matthews. She's one big bad influence.
